I have yet to meet anyone who woke up one morning saying, “Today is the day I start my affair! ” Recognize All Relationships are Vulnerable to Infidelity Emotional affairs begin in innocence.” Usually what I hear in the aftermath is, “I never thought this would happen to me. It is nothing more than a conversation that leaves us with a good impression of the person we shared it with.
Linda Howard, romantic suspense author extraordinaire, used to give a very popular talk on the subject based on the work of Desmond Morris. – this is the first “summing up” glance where a person notices the height, weight, dress code of another and registers an “overall impression.” A man will never approach a woman without this step and readers love it when writers get that first glimpse onto the page. – the first step of active interaction between two people.Whether an affair is emotional or sexual, it is DECEPTION that creates the most long-term damage to the trust and future of the marriage.If there is an ongoing interaction with someone with whom you have been very honest in sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings, this can generate a feeling of closeness that stimulates even more sharing.– Perhaps the first kiss back at Step 7 was a lip-lock, maybe it included some stroking of the back.Sexy and intimate, but not a “skip-a-level” moment.