But then later, "I have people sending me thank you e-mails all the time.
A guy came to a support group meeting and sent me flowers."Since many of the members have not come out to family and friends, a password is needed to get into the photo gallery showing pictures of social events and to receive any specific information about members.
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"It's confusing, because you don't know when the right time is to tell somebody."I would have been happy to have had just one person to unload everything I was feeling," he says."Instead I found more than 500.""Charlotteh" was started two years ago by Pam - who, like John, doesn't want her last name used.I thought at the time that the girl who gave it to me and I were the only people in the world who had it."But John and his date are far from alone.And the growing number of people in similar situations has created a new industry: Internet dating sites just for people with STDs.